If you’ve found yourself crazy in love and full of respect and encouragement to chase your wildest dreams, waiting to cross the “25-year-old” mark to get married just to fit in with all the other millennials is foolish. Early marriage has become taboo for our generation. But finding “the one” should be a cause to celebrate—not a death sentence. If you’re not done sowing your wild oats, no pressure, but there are some serious perks to marrying young.
10. Less regret and emotional baggage
Media begs us to join the overly-sexualized masses and indulge in the freedoms of bachelor living. However, each indulgence leaves its scar and can cripple many young adults in finding happiness in their future. Intimacy is a gift, but it can be a curse with countless lovers under your belt as you try to promise monogamy. Tying the knot early can keep that affection where it’s safe, in the confines of marriage.
9. Beat the race to the altar
No one is trying to force a 23-year-old to the altar. In fact, our generation cries against it. However, when a woman nears the age of 30, the prejudicial pressure is marry just about anyone. A decision to marry early will be a decision of your own.
8. Traveling before children
You’ve got all the time in the world before the biological clock starts ticking: Take on your bucket list. A third or fourth plane ticket for the kids will skyrocket your costs, and now you’re free to blow the nonexistent diaper budget on that all-inclusive resort.
7. Financial benefits
Studies show that married men make more than single men. And then there’s marital tax deduction, filing taxes jointly, health insurance, double income and double IRA. Ca-ching!
6. You can focus on your career
Most singles go to desperate lengths to find his or her soulmate. Once you get that out of the way, you can devote all Cupid’s planning and daydreaming to developing your career and professional goals. And you even have a lifelong cheerleader to hold you accountable to those biggest dreams.
5. Avoid dating sites and awkward meet-ups
For many, online dating introduces lifelong happiness—but it’s a gamble. There are some strange folks out there, and many weave their way into popular dating sites and Meetups. Modern dating is strange, and there are countless opportunities to be paired with complete strangers.
4. Grow up together
Marriage forces you out of your parents basement and on to face the unknowns of life. Share all your “firsts” with the one who will share the rest of it: first house, first pet, first job and maybe even a first child. Through these big moves and some serious adulting, you learn who you are and what you want. Our hobbies and interests are ever-changing, and supporting each other through crucial transitions builds a solid foundation to withstand your ever-evolving future selves.
3. Finding yourself is less painful.
When you realize you majored in the wrong field, and that you actually hate accounting or when you decide you want to become a vegan and learn yoga—the right partner will help you plan your life, sift through recipes and take a class or two. And when nothing else is stable, you will have your marriage.
2. Easier time having kids and more energy to play
Fertility rates start dropping around age 27 for women. And it only gets worse from there with even lower fertility rates and an increase in birth defects at age 35. Though medical advances can assist couples trying for a child later in life: Fertility treatments can cost as much as a new car. And once your little bundle of joy enters the world, the games have just begun. Soccer coaching, hide-and-go-seek, stroller pushing and small amounts of sleep require copious amounts of youthful energy still held by parents in their 20’s.
1. Empty nesting in your early 40’s
You aren’t even halfway done living when the kids fly the coop! You and your spouse will have probably accumulated more disposable income to travel and try new hobbies when your future offspring fly out into the world. And you can now further pursue your career goals with all the time on your empty-nested hands. When the grandkids come around, you’ll still be going strong.